Alright, I have almost always kept a journal through my life and oddly right now I haven't written any of my "true" feelings about this pregnancy down. When I found out I was pregnant w/ Adrienne I wrote pages and pages of thoughts down (I was 19, not married yet, working, in school, broke, etc,...)
Now, with 3 babies you would think I have so much more to write about... I think I am still truly at a loss for words with this surprise blessing. Adam and I knew we wanted to try for one more and when I found out there was 3.... I don't know, the shock hasn't FULLY worn off. Everyday, I remind myself that god would never give me more than I can handle (which i truly believe). I also remind myself that I am a good mom and Adam is an amazing dad.... Adrienne will be such a sweet sister.... the list goes on! But, once in a while I let my thought/hormones get the best of me. I wonder if having 3 babies will be so stressful that it takes the joy out of being a mom. I am almost 100% sure we're done with kids... I hate the idea of looking back at this pregnancy and the newborn stage and possibly realizing I didn't fully enjoy it. I catch myself looking at my moving stomach and its odd to think that at 22 I'll never experience the miracle of growing a child again. Okay, I'm going all over the place (sorry)......
I'm completely terrified that while Adam is in Afghanistan (sometime this fall for about a year) I will simply become miserable. I'm already starting to feel isolated because even though I have just a few friends; they have their own lives. None of which have children, nor are married... I know I need to meet people I have more in common with. I guess I just know the reality of meeting someone who understands the pressure of being a young parent of 4 children will be hard to come by.
Sorry if I sound like I am pitying myself, because I don't think I am... I guess I'm just expressing my stresses! Because on the flip side, I am beyond lucky to know that I am young, healthy, have a wonderful family, and that my babies will be so loved and well taken care of and provided for.
I think before the babies come I need to really try to find a parents of multiples support group and even possibly talk to a therapist/life coach. I know its hormones now, but I know I am at a higher risk of depression... and honestly some nights, I wonder if I am already(?!) Like I said before, I want to enjoy all my babies and their childhood, I know I'll have help but I just feel so overwhelmed right now.
A few more things to bitch about:
-I am SO sick of people asking if I took fertility drugs. I'm not offended, but I wonder since when is it a question that is okay to ask a stranger (?) Or, if I had, would it then offend me (?)
-I wish my dad and siblings wanted to be more involved in my life and my daughters
-I love Adam more than anything but I just wish/hope/pray he gets accepts this SOON (I don't want to write about his feelings on here, but obviously men have a harder time accepting change than women. Especially in the baby dept)
-Oh! I'm sure the hormones make me cry more than normal... but my reflection in the mirror does too. I hate not being the kind of person that finds myself beautiful while pregnant. I have no "glow"!!! My skin is dry, I'm broken out, I cannot breathe AT ALL, standing hurts, my back aches, my boobs leak, my throat is dry, and of course I'm carrying an extra 40 lbs and I am sure there are more lbs to come..........
If you've read all this.... then, thank you! I hope I don't sound like a horrible person anywhere on here, but I can't sleep and needed to "write"
~Sam